Date Your Spouse

Life is crazy, right?! When in the throes of young kid parenting (or middle or old - how do I know?😜) it's hard! You love your kids, and you love your spouse, but you also love your "me" time and sometimes that comes at the expense of quality time with your spouse. Why? Because the kids are so needy and dependent on you, that when it's time for them to sleep at night, you want to veg too. And while you love your spouse, sometimes it's hard to give them the attention and love they so deeply deserve and need because you're spent. You're drained and you feel you have nothing left to give.

All this to say, I truly believe there is an importance and value to dating your spouse. Making sure they feel valued and honored and a priority in the midst of crazy kid-dom. So that is when I decided to make a special dinner for Christian, complete with menu and dressing up and diffuser "candle" light 😂 as a surprise for him. And boy was he ever surprised! The kids got in to it and wanted to help, down to Reid putting on an apron and meeting Christian at the door when he got home and saying "Daddy, your bride is waiting for you." He then proceeded to go to bed and Christian and I had a very nice date night at home. Nothing intensely fancy, but special and intentional to show Christian I love him and care for him and appreciate all that he does for us to be able to live in our house and me stay home with my kiddos.

Aaaannnddd unbeknownst to me, he had just a few days earlier, mailed a card to me from his business trip in Napa Valley, CA to let me know how much he appreciates me and how hard I work to raise our kids while he works to provide for us. What a cycle of life, huh? And how amazing I felt opening up that letter in the mail, as I saw the return address and thought, "Huh, I don't know anyone in San Fransisco."

Bottom line: Date your spouse! Make them feel special and valued and important and appreciated. Don't take them for granted, even in the midst of child rearing the precious little ones you are blessed to raise and take care of. Because what better example for them but to see two parents